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August 19, 2008 Y 23:56


谁在说「对不起」─ ─ 只是一句很简单的话,常常们都付予它太重的包袱。

※ 学会闭嘴 ※

或许是朋友的朋友,更可能只是第一次见面的人。听起来好像在考验你是否为足以信赖的朋友。于是你三缄其口,直到从第三者口中听到同样的「秘密」,才惊觉:那是怎么一回事呀?你心里必定有一种受愚弄的感觉,偏偏那天又不是愚人节。

先别急着点头。这也可以是测验之一;如果你是个能为朋友保守秘密的人,这时最好还是学会闭嘴。一旦你附和了别人口中的「秘密」时,那和出卖朋友的人有什么两样呢?急于表现那么一句;「啊!他也和我讲过同样的话耶!」不会为你赢来更多的友谊,只会失去别人的信任。认为你也是个藏不住话的人,那么还有谁敢和你交心?

要赢得别人的信赖很难,「失去」却很容易。
重要的是,不在乎别人怎样对你,只在乎你是否遵守了承诺。「秘密」的价值不在于内容本身,而在于人格。


※ 斤斤计较 ※

朋友有许多种;有人是可以谈心的、有的是讲义气、有的是玩乐的朋友、有的是同学、同事等等,各自在你生命中扮演不同的角色。如果你能清楚将他们人类的话,那么对许多的友谊你就不会以同样的标准来衡量了。

记住!保持平常心对待每一个人吧!珍惜身边每一项事务,当然也包括人。因为不是每一个人都能和你分享同样一件事情。先不要就以眼前一件事,断定别人的好坏,也许现在这位朋友不能帮你,搞不好将来有别的事情他插得上手。所以,先别对眼前发生的事情斤斤计较,试着装傻、原谅他人,至少心中不要有怨言,对自己也没损失,不是吗?

朋友是你一生的财富,好的带给你幸运;坏的,刺激你的成长。


※ 复仇记 ※

听过「鹬蚌相争,渔翁得利」的故事吧!当你被仇恨的心蒙蔽了双眼时可能忽略了一旁有人正在虎视眈眈。

没有人会从复仇得到任何实际上的利益;除了一时之快。然而这种「快意」过去之后,你是否想到除了伤害更多人之外,你可能失去的会更多。懂得吃亏就是占便宜的道理,不管那些别人加诸于自己的伤害。因为背叛你的人,他也会在背叛别人,就让他的天性漫无止尽下去,终有一天会尝到苦果。而你,该庆幸的是及早从那个旋涡中逃开,远离是非,不亦是种幸福?

别人向你默计时,你就已经成了被设计的一份子。


※ 是敌人也可以是朋友 ※

有人说:「良药苦口」。每个人莫不是爱听写好话,对自己赞扬的美言,稍稍听到一点批评,第一个反应就是老大不高兴。

永远记得:「谢谢」和「对不起」,是让敌人软化的好方法。
像个海绵一样吸收所有对你的批评和建议,如此一来只会使你像个宽宏大量的人,而不是被击倒的弱者。谦逊赢得对手的尊重,迎头痛击只会落得两败俱伤。何不试着化敌为友,不仅在你人生的路程上少了阻力,反而多了个助手呢!

去了解引起你愤怒的原因,胜过与整个世界为敌。


※ 是谁在说「对不起」? ※


现在的人是越来越爱面子,不只是男人爱面子,女人也一样。这不只出现在应酬场合,甚至在朋友之间、夫妻、情人之间,总是在争执过后,很难先低头认错。如果偏偏不在于你,对方又是个「硬里子」时。这场冷战还真不知道要拖延到什么时候。

只是一句很简单的话,常常我们都付予它太沉重的包袱。只要三个字:「对不起」,它刻意令你好过些,也让别人有台阶下。为什么到该说时,又惜字如金呢?是的,你可能要说:错不在于你。如果因此而错失一段珍贵的友谊,那就是你的错了。亲密的朋友,在于我们都了解彼此的性格,摸透对方的底细。如果还把面子问题摆在前头的话,那你无异把好朋友当成应酬的对象了。

交朋友,先放低你的姿态,这就是个精神。没错的人先认错,那个明明做错事的人反而倍加愧疚;于是也不用你点明了,对方一定乖乖自首。





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